In Memory

G. Rob Maher

G. Rob Maher

OBITUARY: Gordon Roberts Maher, Wiltonian and Spiritual Parisian


Heather Borden Herve, GMW Editor -

October 13, 2020

Gordon Roberts Maher, a retired vice president of commodities operations and spiritual Parisian, died Oct. 5, 2020, in Norwalk, CT of complications from alcoholism.

Gordon, known as Rob, or less frequently but more cherished to him, Gordo, Maher was born in Norwalk, CT, growing up in Wilton, CT for a time with his elder brother Jim, elder sister Pamela and younger sister Marcia. The family then decamped to St. Germain du Pres, France as a result of their father’s work at IBM where family lore contends he may or may not have been a postwar spy.

Rob lived his adolescence en France, hanging with friends over the Seine, perfecting his “un pression, s’il vouz plais,” and witnessing the protests of May ’68. Rob and the family returned to the States in time for him to graduate from Wilton High School, but in his heart never left France. He attended the University of Virginia where he studied architecture, only to find his love of modernism out of place, and reluctantly majored in history.

In 1975 Rob moved to New York City, where he played Bruce Springsteen from the speakers on his fire escape and met many lifelong friends. On one of his frequent adventures, a dark-haired young woman spotted him jogging through the crowd at a regatta, and decided she’d met her husband.

Busy with the life of a young man in Manhattan, it took him a moment to understand that fate had smiled in his direction. After an inconclusive start, Ceci let him know he needed to grow up a bit and skipped town. Realizing his error, he chased her to Detroit and proposed. She turned him down, only to show up back in New York, call him from a payphone, and invite him to try again. He gave her a pop-top ring, and they shared 40 years of marriage.

Rob and Ceci returned to Connecticut to start a family, welcoming a daughter, Katherine, and son, James, before their farmhouse burned down. One apartment and one rebuild later, Rob and family had resettled back to Wilton where they would welcome another son, Matthew, many dogs, and have no more houses, fires, or children.

Rob was an operations man in his work at Astra, Goldman Sachs, UBS, and Castleton Commodities over the years, with a deep appreciation for tankers (ships, not boats) and a remarkable familiarity with the depth of the port of Aden. He was also an operations man at home, enjoying maps and the correct way to load and unload a dishwasher.

Rob was a sailor with a lifelong love for the ocean, finding particular joy in Long Island Sound from Roton Point and the Atlantic from anywhere on Cape Cod, as long as it was above Eastham (especially Wellfleet). He loved sunlight and the arts, dabbling in pottery and sculpture. He enthusiastically participated in volunteer work and gave his time generously in his retirement, a regular fixture at many food drives with Person to Person in Darien.

During his tenure at Goldman Sachs, Rob had the great misfortune of being present in the Financial District during September 11, an experience that had a lasting adverse effect on his health and his soul. He was supported through his subsequent struggles with alcohol by his family, particularly his sister Pamela, the AA and recovery community, and friends and well-wishers from throughout his life.

He is survived by his wife Ceci Maher of Wilton, CT, his three children, Katherine Maher and James Maher of San Francisco, CA, and Matt Maher of Brooklyn, NY; as well as his brother Jim Maher of Fort Meyers, FL, his sisters Pamela Maher of Norwalk, CT and Marcia Maher of Morristown, NJ, countless incomplete house projects, and all those that knew his kindness.

The family will host an outdoor celebration of Rob’s life at their home on Thursday, Oct. 15, from 12-2 p.m. All are welcome; please wear flat shoes and masks, social distancing will be strictly enforced, bring a chair. Instead of flowers, which made Rob sneeze, the family suggests a donation to the Food Pantry of Person to Person (), or a food bank in your own community.

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10/15/20 11:09 AM #1    

Jeff Hamilton

Rob was one of my best friends during the years he was at ASP. After he left, we continued to stay in touch until our senior year, and then lost track of one another. I never saw him again until our marathon Zoom sussion in June. It is shocking to lose him so soon afterwards. I will always be indebted to Rob for giving me the nickname "Zheef", a franglais version of "Jeff" derived from the word "gifle" for "slap". That showed his sense of humor.

10/15/20 05:26 PM #2    

Jack Rapport

I attended Rob’s Memorial “Celebration of Life” service today and had a chance to express the condolences of our whole class both privately to members of his family as well in some brief comments I made to all those in attendance. Well over a hundred people were present, friends, acquaintances, relatives close and distant. All universally praised Rob for his warmth, friendliness and cheerfulness. I had a chance to meet his wife Ceci and his children Katherine, James and Matt. All were surprised and pleased that someone from his life before them all was in attendance! I supplemented the record, noting that to us his nickname wan’t Gordo but Brillo, which elicited some laughs. I also showed them Rob’s obituary here on our class site and they clearly were grateful and touched. I spoke at some length with his sisters Pam and Marcia who are, respectively, a couple of years older and younger than we. Despite the years we reminisced and remembered fondly our lives in Paris during the tumultous 60's. I’m sure we were all glad to have ‘seen’ and heard from Rob during our virtual reunion…I only wish he was going to be around for the next one. Rest in peace buddy. 

10/16/20 10:29 AM #3    

Robert Schubert

Rob, better known as “Brillo”, was a good friend at ASP. Maybe it started because our dads worked together at IBM or maybe just because he was such a nice outgoing person, open to the new kids joining the class.

I’ll never forget him and his family because we took over their Christmas reservations at the Park Hotel Schoenegg in Grindelwald Switzerland. And if I recall correctly they introduced us to “L”Entrecote” the evening the reservation plan switch was made.

It was so good finding him and getting him on our June Zoom. I got his phone number from UVA. He was a little apprehensive when we first spoke (I guess after 50+ years I would be too) and asked for some confirmation of who I was. So, I said “We took your Christmas reservations in Grindelwald” and immediately he lit up! So sad we didn’t have more time to relive our Parisian escapades.

Rest in Peace dear friend.

10/17/20 06:37 AM #4    

Mark Ciovacco

Rob was one of the first classmates who I met in 1966 when I first came to ASP. It was obvious immediately that he was well liked by everyone in our class and school. I did not have that much interaction with Rob but it did not take much to know that he was a real quality person. Our fathers also worked together at IBM. All my prayers for Rob and his family.
Mark Ciovacco

10/18/20 06:42 PM #5    

Carol Bradford

There are many comments on the ASP Alumni page on Facebook which is a closed group. People including Ann Calvert (a neighbor in St. Germain en Laye), David Wood, Corinna Caldwell, Alexandra Schouvaloff, Joan Fischer Moore have fond memories of Rob, are sad that he's left us and send condolences to his family.  Several, including me, were touched by the beautiful and courageous obituary Rob's family shared.

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